Writing is _______

Writing is _______________ fill in the blank
fun
exciting
sexy
as necessary as breathing

i hear many different things from writers and would be writers
but i never hear it is a business

maybe writers are afraid to put that creative genius into a category called business
business is all about pencil pushers
accountants
conglomerate take overs
it is cold
calculating
hardline
impersonal

but
not matter how you slice it
dice it
stereotype it

writing is a business
you
your words are your product
and you should take that product very seriously!

I will leave it to those that know more
on getting published to answer those questions
that is not what i am talking about
but it is the end goal

what i want to address is your writer persona
most writers have an outside job that pays the bills
the writing being your passion
done after work
in the early mornings
weekends
sick days
in spurts

so already you are split into 2 persona
the writer and the worker
and in the beginning you do it as deftly as a surgeon with a knife
but many new writers
those without guidance
tend to as time goes on
blur
the lines

and that can be dangerous

take this example
this happens way too often
especially to female writers of sensual words
you tell a neighbor
who tells a friend
what you do
maybe you share a story
before you know it some jerk
has come up to you
and starts making indecent proposals
when you smile nicely and firmly no thank you
they push harder
they make assumptions that because you can write a sex scene
and do it very well that
you have fucked around
had multiple partners
experienced anal sex
like to be spanked
tied up
or any other number of things their little minds assume go with the territory
and the greatest assumption from them is that
you are eager and willing to drop your knickers and do it right there on the kitchen floor with them

no one would make that assumption of Lisa Gardner, James Patterson, Robin Cook any of the multitude of suspense, horror or thriller novelists out there.

but if you write a sex scene like this for a client

“…He was inside me in an instant
Filling me
Pumping me
It was intense
His hardness my wetness
My nipples ached as they rubbed against his chest
I yearned to be able to wrap my legs around him
But I was hostage by my own devices
I cried as he swelled
As we both neared
His pumping became more fevered
His whispers in my ear
Guttural moans
Incoherent
I free hand ran through his hair
Intertwined
Pressing his face closer to me
His breath at my neck
Heady
The room spinned
Cumming
Intensely
Together
Dom and submissive
Finally motionless
Spent
Nothing but sweat and irreversible smiles
..”

even if like 9 1/2 weeks
it is just one scene out of 100
it is the only one they will remember
it is the one they will associate with you

So take your product’s visibility seriously
consider a pen name
develop the persona of you the writer
different from you the office worker
different from you doer of laundry
and master of the vaccumm cleaner and lawn mower
make that persona strong

be pro-active

get a mailbox, dont use your home address
set up email, twitter, facebook account specifically for that product
your business
the writer

Remember things you put on the internet or people say about you on the internet cant be easily erased. new employers will look at google to see if there is anything about you, blogs, photos hate mail that they need be aware of. Potential romantic interest will look to see what kind of freak you are. your parents might even take a look and not be all that happy.

make it harder for stalkers to harass you and your family
make it easier to be invisible

you never know what the future holds for you
you could find that after 5 or so years you would rather write childrens books, or be a sunday school teacher
dont give the narrow minded an inch to discriminate against you

i speak from experience
i have been harassed
stalked
and encountered job discrimination

So i learned the hard way
i make no apologies for me
or my business
i writesex
and i am one of the lucky ones that can combine passion and business

this has been oceania monroe for writesex.net

Oceania’s sensual words

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